After a long day of auditions, runway class, and lecturing this is the first thing I see on Facebook when I get home.
And the debate that followed was SO frustrating that I'm not even going to go into how my day was. That's for tomorrow.
First of all, I have to say GET OVER ****YOURSELF**** MR PHOTOGRAPHER MAN. Based on your resume and photos I don't see every girl on the planet throwing themselves at you with their panties and bras being flung the other direction.
Ahem. So a little background story.
Along my journeys, I have been honored by receiving invites to friend photographers from all over the world through social media sites. And this man (let's call him Vomitron) was one of them. His page claimed high fashion, tattoo work, and animated retouching. His photos were gorgeous... All three of them that I could see at the time.
It wasn't until last night that I realized he was a nude photographer.
Now, there is a place for nude photography. When I was struggling with rent back in the day, I used to do nude modeling for art classes and photography classes. I never took off my underwear, but I never felt uncomfortable or threatened to either. Nude photography can be a gorgeous, artistic, expressive, light and a powerful way to capture the human truths that the subjects have to show. It especially has a great ability to empower people's images of themselves by showing that skin is skin and you don't have to be ashamed of your body.
That being said, let's go back to Vomitron.
I first address this subject by stating that it is not fair to illegitimize a models profession based on the fact that they do not want to BARE IT ALL.
Vomitron says that if I'm not open to his type of photography as a model then I'm not truly a professional.... But rather a hobbyist. Have you heard of a little publication called VOGUE- he asks. You should look into it.... Still want to "be a model" now?
First of all I don't ASPIRE to be a model.... I AM a model. Professionally. But Vomitron doesn't know this. Second of all when I signed with Major, they went through a full scrub to delete or research any full nudes that may be of me and other models on the internet. Now, if sooooo high class, why would one of the top ten agencies in the world be so concerned about whitewashing the histories of models gone wild? Thirdly, I think to my newest model friend, Spencer. He is a signed model... Who is Mormon. He refuses to do any work that his mother wouldn't approve of and has almost walked from a set before due to the nature of the shoot. He holds very high standards for his work and himself. In a world where SEX SELLS why is it that he just came back from 3 months in Milan, has NY Fashion Week to attend, and is full represented?
Perhaps there's more to modeling, more to creating imagery than just sex. Perhaps when models do their work, they don't always need to be thinking "what's the best way to pose so that the person seeing this advertisement or garment will think to themselves.... I would fuck the hell out of that model right now."
My emotions are peaked.
But, I DO go back to Vogue and check out their images. There are some gorgeous, tasteful simple nudes. People just sitting in chairs, kneels, floating in water. Just casually chillax ing there naked. And the images are stunning.... Powerful.... Empowering.
I decide to give Vomitron a reprieve from my argumentative onslaught. Perhaps he is simply a guy who likes to capture these types of moments. To harness the simplicity and artistic side of the human canvas. What a noble thing!
So I go through his portfolio and study the photos one by one. This is what I find and thus is what I think.
Let's get real here.
There IS an art behind the types of photos that Vomitron takes. There IS a talent. There IS a market for it. And it is one that is appreciated by many members of society. The girls are gorgeous, the photography is flawless.... It is it's own entity.
But it's not VOGUE. It's not high fashion. It is not the kind of photography that you will find in any high end gallery anytime soon. And that's ok.
The models above are REAL models too.
But I want to make it very clear. VERY FUCKING CLEAR RIGHT NOW!
I DONT HAVE TO SHOW YOU MY TITS OR MY VAGINA TO BE SEXY.
Sexy does NOT mean SEXUAL.
I do NOT have to FUCK the camera, fake my sexual preference, or get wet for you to want me.
As egotistical as this may sound.... And scary.... I am confident that clothed or not, I can be desirable.
This is what is wrong with this world.... The mystery is dying. The magic is dying. We are becoming desensitized due too the easy access to naked moaning women all over the internet.
If I'm wearing a garment in an advertisement (no matter which gender I'm representing... Bt let's say women). IM SELLING TO WOMEN. And people, I hate to fuck your minds a little bit, but WOMEN are no longer RELYING on their MALE COUNTERPARTS to buy their clothing.
Which means, when WOMEN are buying their clothing, and looking at ads, they are seeing what THEY could be.... Want to be... Etc. and often will dress to impress their friends, family, or lovers.
Why can't we change this so that people dress to impress THEMSELVES?
So that when you don an outfit, you truly are able to say, I love myself in this and I don't give two fucks if someone else does. This is who IIIIII want to be.
A sex kitten.... Absolutely if that's what you want get it!
A conservative collared shirt gal.... Totes for it!
Dark and moody with chains.... If that's who YOU are!
There is nothing wrong with being sexy. Porn. Or experimental clothing. But we MUST change this concept that SEX is the only way we will be taken care of, loved, and validated.
We really need to promote that we are enough for OURSELVES and that IF we choose to mold our appearances slightly to impress a friend, lover, or family matter- then it's an honor for them not an obligation.
You are a powerful person. You are capable of creating, crushing, and conceptualizing things that can change the world. Whether you feel that or not. You (MEN AND WOMEN) are more than a fuck toy. You are ENOUGH to be desired, no orgasms required. You are MORE than your genitals. You are more than your hormones.
You are your heart.